One of the UK’s best-loved psychotherapists reveals the blind spots that are clouding our judgement and affecting our relationships, and shares the tools to overcome them Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or relative that’s hit a nerve and you can’t figure out why it bothered you so much? Over the course of her 15-year career, Emma has discovered that the root of this pain and confusion often lies in a blind spot: a gap in our awareness that distorts how we perceive ourselves and our loved ones which, left unchallenged, can leave us feeling unloved, insecure or overwhelmed. In What am I Missing? Emma reveals the four blind spot profiles along with client case studies to demonstrate how they show up in daily life, and exercises to help us see past them: Are you THE GLADIATOR, determined but missing trust? THE BRIDGE, easy-going but missing authenticity? THE HUSTLER, charming but missing self-worth? Or THE ROCK, resilient but missing boundaries? Like sitting with your own therapist, What am I Missing? will help you understand yourself and your loved ones better than ever before, and gives you the keys to a happier life.

We are all people-pleasers in one way or another – even those who deny it. Whether at work, home or in our relationships, we all know how it feels to want people to like us. The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way. In this life-changing book, psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell explains the different ‘types’ of people-pleaser and provides practical, reassuring advice on how to better understand – and stop – people-pleasing behaviour when it starts to affect your own needs. Please Yourself will help you care for others in the right way – and ultimately, help you take better care of yourself.